Tadi
pagi di kampus, ada sharing bersama. Salah satu topiknya adalah masalah
kebahagiaan. Ada buku yang dibahas, yang berjudul "100 Resep Sederhana
Orang-Orang Bahagia", karya David Niven.Saya menemukan ebook dari “The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It". http://ebookee.org/The-100-Simple-Secrets-of-Happy-People_676561.html Saya coba sharing saja dengan copy paste, ini adalah 10 hal pertama.
1. Your life has purpose and meaning.
You are not here just to fill space or to be a background character in someone else's movie.
Consider this: nothing would be the same if you did not exist.
Every place you have ever been and everyone you have ever spoken to would be different without you.
We are all connected, and we are all affected by the decisions and even the existence of those around us.
2. Use a strategy for happiness.
We assume that happy and unhappy people are born that way. But both kinds of people do things that create and reinforce their moods. Happy people let themselves be happy. Unhappy people continue doing things that upset them.
3. You don't have to win every time.
Ultracompetitive people, who always need to win, end up enjoying things less. If they lose they are very disappointed, and if they win it's what they expected would happen anyway.
4. Your goals should be aligned with one another.
The four tires of your car have to be properly aligned; otherwise the left tires will be pointed in a different direction from the right tires and the car won't work. Goals are just like that. They all must be pointed in the same direction. If your goals conflict with one another, your life may not work.
5. Choose your comparisons wisely.
Many of our feelings of satisfaction or dissatisfaction have their roots in how we compare ourselves to others. When we compare ourselves to those who have more, we feel bad. When we compare ourselves to those who have less, we feel grateful. Even though the truth is we have exactly the same life either way, our feelings about our life can vary tremendously based on who we compare ourselves with.
Compare yourself with those examples that are meaningful but that make you feel comfortable with who you are and what you have.
6. Cultivate friendships.
Rekindle past relationships, and take advantage of opportunities at work or among your neighbors to expand your friendship base.
People need to feel that they are a part of something bigger, that they care about others and are cared about by others in return.
7. Turn off the TV.
Television is a creamy filling that distracts us from the substance of our lives
8. Accept yourself—unconditionally.
You are not just the size of your bank account, the neighborhood you live in, or the type of work you do. You are, just like everyone else, an almost inconceivably complicated mix of abilities and limitations.
9. Remember where you came from.
Think about and celebrate your ethnicity. Often we feel lost in a vast and complex world. There is tremendous comfort in knowing your ethnic heritage. It gives you a history, a sense of place, a uniqueness that remains no matter what else is going on around you.
10. Limit yourself to thinking about one subject as you lie down to sleep.
Those who have a lot of anxiety let their thoughts shoot around from one subject to another as they try to go to sleep until, in a matter of minutes, they have created a virtual catalogue of problems.
With all these problems, you'll ask yourself, how can I possibly sleep?
Tonight as you are brushing your teeth, come up with something you'd like to think about when you slip under the covers. If other thoughts start to intrude, guide yourself back to that one subject.
Untuk yang ke 11 - 100 bisa langsung lihat di ebook tersebut atau beli buku terjemahannya. Buku terjemahannya diterbitkan oleh Gramedia.
